The uninterested tries to reduce his own level of exposure to partners by influencing their impulse

The uninterested tries to reduce his own level of exposure to partners by influencing their impulse

Levine and Heller get a helpful selection of distancing demeanor (also called deactivating techniques):

aˆ? Saying (or believing) aˆ?Iaˆ™m not prepared commitaˆ?aˆ”but being with each other none the less, often consistently.

aˆ? Focusing on little defects inside companion: how s/ he talks, dresses, consumes, or (add the blank) and allowing it to block off the road of the enchanting emotions.

aˆ? Pining after an ex-girlfriend/ boyfriendaˆ”( the aˆ?phantom exaˆ?aˆ” more about this eventually).

aˆ? Flirting with othersaˆ”a hurtful technique to present anxiety into connection.

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